Adopting After 40 and Beyond
Society is changing, and many people are choosing to become parents later in life. People in their 40s, 50s, and beyond are becoming adoptive parents for the first time or starting a second family.
I was at a social gathering when a met a handsome man in blue jeans and a blazer with neatly trimmed gray hair. I didn’t ask his age, but he looked to be in his late 50s. He told me that he had recently retired and proudly pointed to his elementary school-age daughters, ages 9 and 10, who he had adopted from foster care when they were 7 and 8 years old. He and his wife had already raised three children together but found they still had energy and love to give. They couldn’t think of a better way to spend the next phase of their life than devoting themselves to children who needed a forever family. “I’m a much better parent this time around,” he told me. He explained that the “first time around” he was busy with a demanding career. As an older gentleman, he said he liked being able to focus more of his attention on his daughters. He felt better prepared to deal with the challenges of parenting. He knew from experience how quickly kids grow up, and he didn’t want to miss a minute of their childhood. From the smile on this face and the animated way he talked about his girls, I could tell that he was truly enjoying his second parenting journey.
What are some of the benefits of adopting children later in life?
- You’ve had time to chase your dreams, travel, and build your career.
- Your career is more established making it easier to negotiate flexible work hours.
- You are more financially secure than you were when you were just starting out.
- You’ve built a strong support system in your community that can help you out.
- The wisdom, experience, and maturity you’ve gained over the first few decades of your life will help you to be a better parent.
- You’ve become more patient as you’ve gotten older.
- You’ve figured out what’s important in life and learned how to let go of the little things.
- Your kids will give you a whole new outlook on life — their energy and enthusiasm are contagious.
- You’ll never be bored, and you’ll learn something new every day.
- You can fill an empty nest and enjoy parenting all over again.
There are no upper age limits for adopting a child from foster care as long as you are willing and able to commit to parenthood. Many older children are waiting. What could be more meaningful, at any age, than providing a child with the love and security of a family? Join us for a monthly info session. Click here for more information.